The average amount of time it takes to plan a wedding is between 12 and 18 months. How much time do these couples actually put into planning the rest of their life together? I was told that it is much less (somewhere on the total other end of the spectrum). Maybe that is a factor in the huge divorce rate of this country?
To get married at our church (Southland Christian Church), couples have to go through a four week pre-marriage class with other engaged couples. It is led by two couples, both have been married for several years. Topics discussed range from marriage expectations and communication to finances and intimacy. These classes are supposed to spark conversation amongst engaged couples and give people the tools they need for a good start to their marriage.
Our classes began earlier this month. For four Wednesday nights in a row, we are meeting in the atrium at Southland to talk, laugh and grow. I have already learned some really pertinent things (last night's "fighting fair" session was particularly useful!).
I think this class (and the topics learned) is extremely important in our growth as a couple. To continue this growth, we have several things in mind for the remainder of our engagement, including us reading"The Five Love Languages" together. (Great book for all couples!)
Yes, planning a wedding is time consuming, but planning for the rest of your life together is so much more important. Who cares how lavish and finely planned your wedding is if it is planned without contemplating what happens after the honeymoon?
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